Let's take a look at the characteristics of a toxic relationship, and what you can do about it when you find yourself tangled up in the mess of one.
If you allow them, toxic people can be like vampires. Draining your energy - mentally, emotionally, financially. When you are with them your mood sours, and you struggle to be at your best. To sum it up after you've been with a toxic person you feel the need to shower yourself in some positivity.
Interestingly, toxic people come in all shapes and forms. Your boss, a direct report, a colleague, your partner, your kids. Even if you think you are in the 'power' position, don't be misled. Even one of your kids could be having a negative impact on your thinking and attitude.
These are some of the characteristics of a toxic relationship. You've possibly experienced others. The crucial point is that, when you are around this person you end up feeling bad.
While the characteristics of a toxic relationship are easy to define, it is useful to understand what is at the core of most toxic relationships ... Low Self-Esteem!
Generally, toxic people are filled with fears: afraid that they aren't good enough, of losing control, of exposing their inner desires and wants. Often they have been victims of toxic relationships themselves.
When people don't feel good about themselves, they view other people's successes as a poor reflection upon themselves. Furthermore, they resent other people getting ahead. When they see the other person doing well, and then look in the mirror at themselves, compare and feel threatened the toxic person seeks ways to get rid of the pressure.
More often than not, they take this pressure off by belittling other peoples, dreams, successes, wins, and goals.
Your sense of self-worth and your belief in your capability dies if you are around a toxic person for too long. Especially if you give your power away to them, by believing what they say. It is imperative that you take steps to ensure you stop the harm of people who are poisonous to you.
Your life will be unpleasant when you are around toxic people.. Fortunately you are the one who can do something about it. Here are a few tips on how to improve the quality of your life by neutralizing the impact of toxic relationships:
You may be thinking it's not that easy! I can't walk away from my job. However, if the relationship does have all the characteristics of a toxic relationship, and you have accepted responsibility for your part, and exhausted all avenues of moving it into something more healthy, then you need to ask yourself, what do you value most? Financial security, or mental, emotional and spiritual health?
When you are 76, looking back on life, do you think you will regret trading your soul for $? If so, then have the courage to move on, and faith that something better will come to you.
Your life clock is ticking, only be around people who uplift you, and make your life journey a wondrous one.
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