This is a two-part article - so make sure you click through to Part 2 when you get to the end of this page.
Here are a few clues that managing your boss is a skill you may need to develop:
12 things not to do when managing your boss
Here are some ways of managing your boss that are worth avoiding:
1. Assigning 100% of the blame on your boss
When things go wrong in a relationship it is never completely one-sided. As much as you may wish you could lay complete blame at your bosses feet, you can't! You are possibly contributing something to the situation. So accept responsibility for your actions and inactions. You've got a big part to play in successfully managing your boss.
Certainly, you would expect your boss to begin the conversation in any of these situations. However, don't let his or her poor leadership cause you to jump into blame mode and lay all fault at his or her feet.
I have shown a number of my clients a process they can use, to sit with their boss and work through the challenges they are facing. Done successfully, you'll come up with an agreement that enables you to be less overwhelmed/pressured by what you have to do, AND your boss is comfortable and onboard with the agreement.
2. Complaining to everyone else except your boss
Those you are complaining to generally can't fix the problem. If you are guilty of being a complainer and a gossip, then you must stop it immediately.
You weaken your reputation and your soul when you gossip and complain. You want others to take you and your career seriously, right?
Nobody likes being around people like that. Instead, you should discuss with another person (someone who is not intimately involved and has an unbiased view of the situation - like a coach - click on the image below to find out more about how I can support you and your team) strategies for dealing with your boss and making the relationship healthy.
There's a world of difference between a gossip session and a strategy session.
3. Giving your boss a piece of your mind ...
when you are in a high state of emotion - it will only escalate the situation. Emotional Intelligence (EQ)is crucial to success in life. In fact, the research is pretty clear ... your EQ far out predicts your success than your EQ. And, there's even research that show having a well developed EQ gains you about $27,000 per year
4. Convincing yourself that you should get another job
Unless you are absolutely 100% sure that you aren't contributing at all to the situation (most unlikely) - you go with you and so does the problem.
For example, maybe you aren't as dedicated to your work as you should be. Or perhaps you've been complaining to others, instead of speaking directly with your boss.
If you are lazy or avoid confrontations at all costs, you'll take those traits with you, and probably in a short space of time, you'll end up in a similar situation.
6. Not asking for his/her opinion of you
See Part 2 of this article for what to do.
7. Saying Yes to everything they ask of you
You'll probably end up under-delivering, and then they'll jump more on your case. You can manage up and work with your boss so that you don't take on too much.
8. Ignoring or not saying anything about their poor behavior
No denying it, this one's a challenge - see Part 2 of this article for more details on how to get better at confronting your boss - but if you don't address their poor behavior, you are asking for havoc.
9. Not making sure you understand the critical home runs ...
You need to understand the critical targets to hit for him/her to see you as successful. Your job description and what the boss wants from you can be two distinctly different things.
10. Jumping the Chain of Command
This will probably only increase conflict between you and your boss, and you may even suffer some retribution. Just use it as a last resort.
11. Trying to hide problems
You'll end up in deeper water with your boat sinking.
12. Giving up after your first attempt ...
At getting your boss to modify his/her behavior - - Rome wasn't built in a day, the Titanic couldn't be turned on a dime! Don't expect your boss (or anyone else, for that matter) to change from one conversation.
So, now that we've covered what NOT to do when managing your boss let's go to Part 2 of this article and get the next 12 tips that will guide you through how to manage your boss. Make sure you watch the video, at the end of the article, on the cost of a bad boss - it is both entertaining and enlightening!
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